In families, I think that having a clear communication pattern or understanding is one of the most secure ways of creating a stronger family bond. In our everyday interactions, we communicate in many ways. 14% verbal words, 35% tone of voice, and 51% non verbal communications. We must be aware of not just what we say but how we say it. Communication occurs all the time. It requires an exchange of shared messages, and feed back in order to be certain of exchanged meaning of the conversation. Three types of corrupt communication in the family are blame, sarcasm, and lying. All three forms happen in one way of another and we need to learn how to control them and limit the use of them to better enhance out families communication and limit conflict. But conflict isn't always a bad thing. Conflict creates a better option and forces the issues into the open. It helps the family identify and solve the issues at hand. We need to be "transparent" in our communication in marriage. Meaning that we need to be clear about our desires and intentions through out marriage. We also need to focus on "pain with out blame", in other words, compassion. We shouldn't be looking to blame out spouse but to work things out.